Stories of Hope
Smiling is Better Than Frowning
Author: Anne | |
Age: 17 |
I started cutting myself about 18 months to 2 yeas ago... My Father left my mother in the summer of '99 and I don't think it really sunk in until that Christmas. Since then I became progressively withdrawn. On the outside I was still smiley happy Anne in public, but on my own I was always crying and couldn't work out why. This got me very angry because I was so angry, I started falling out with a lot of really close friends. I didn't feel included or loved and that was getting me really depressed. I felt as though no one actually liked me and were just too polite to tell me to go away. I became very paranoid that friends were thinking that I was stupid or pathetic, for just being me.
I can't remember what made me decide to cut myself the first time but as soon as I had done it I felt lighter, but only for the rest of the night. The next day I felt the same as I had done before I cut myself.
I was only doing it at night, not sure why, but then I started college last year, September, I found myself doing it at any point, day or night. I never actually told anyone what I was feeling, and to this day I have never told anyone why I was doing it. I kept it all in and never smiled anymore. My mother noticed that I was depressed or angry all the time but I didn't tell her why and she didn't pursue the issue. She hasn't noticed the cuts and I will never let her know about them, because I felt ashamed and still do. I know I would have let her down.
A group of my friends take ecstasy and seem really happy. I thought they were stupid. What is the point of risking your life for a night of happiness, then I thought back to when I took an overdose 4 years ago and realized I was doing the same thing as they are doing now-risking my life to feel better at the time. So, I made the decision to take ecstasy on the night of my 17th birthday party 4 weeks ago because I was fed up of feeling depressed and always ending a night out with cutting myself. I wanted my party to be the funniest night of my life. It turned out that it was the worst night I had ever experienced in my life because I had a very bad trip and spent the whole night wanting to kill myself. But this was the turning point for me. I know it sounds odd, but the drug made me want to talk all the time. I actually told someone (for the first time) that I wanted to cut myself and kill myself. This person didn't leave my side all night and took me to someone's house where a small group of people were also on ecstasy and they were with me all night, talking to me, making me laugh and talk about what I was feeling.
I managed not to cut myself that night. Or since. And I feel really proud of myself. (I would also like to say that I haven't touched ecstasy either!!)
I suppose what I am trying to say is that I have finally found a group of people who I felt included with. They know the worst thing about me and accept it. They don't hold it against me. And they make me smile all the time! I have wanted to cut myself since then, but I have thrown away my razors which I kept in my wallet and now when I'm out I don't have the opportunity.
I know 4 weeks isn't that long of a time, but I'm proud. I smile and I'm happy.
Smiling really is the key.